Thank you so much, your words meant alot to me because I do feel guilty that I can't do anything for him. We live in Naples Florida. 50 miles from Tampa

You must be very careful not to over extend yourself financially, you are not an enabler because he just can't be the breadwinner he was in that field, you are a dear and loving person. Unless you are very wealthy a TBI can put the family in the poor house. With a split brain injury he would be greatly helped by having some diagnostics done by a neuro-psychologist and find his strengths. Depression is a serious concern andv follows most tbi survivors. What big city is closest? I can find Dr.

Your son in law sounds like a very sensitive and intuitive man who has been able to be very articulate in sharing his frustration's with you. I have had personal experience with the effects of closed and open head injury and must tell you everything sounds pretty normal at this stage. Especially the grave financial difficulty he is experiencing. His sense of self worth is likely depreciating more than their bank book. That stress undermines even those who do not have a disability.

I'm sorry for the delay on your comment I just got it. The place you're talking about sounds like what he needs. Thanks for the info I'll check it out.

Thank you so much for your advice. It's so good to hear that you're doing great now. I have to take him to see a psychiatrist but the problem is he's the kind of person who doesn't believe in them. He's so dam stubborn

I had a brain injury, which I have recovered from almost fully. My biggest passion before the accident was basketball, but I can't play that anymore because of the accident, so your son needs to learn that many things after these injuries change. As for the help, If you take him to a psychiatrist he will be able to point you in the direction of organizations that can help. ABI's club is the name of one by me ( aquired brain injured students) good luck

I deleted it. I don't know who that was. What a jerk

I don't know why this guy told me to F off. Hope you saw the article listed on my site. I don't know why this person has a problem, do you know, that brain chip could help alot of people and possibly him.

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I'm hearing so many stories like yours and mine. But I never hear anyone really talking about how devastating this can be. All my prayers are with you

Welcome to the frustrating world of post TBI, I look fine too but suffer so many of the symptoms you describe: fatigue, depression, sometimes the inability to do cognitive thinking and the frustration. I've had a Cognitive Retrainer who has tried to help me return , a neuro therapist. My neurologist has finally found medications (Provigal and Welbrutron) that has allowed me somewhat of a normal life. Also, there can still be progress after the first year, I still see slow improvement.

Seriously, buy the book "Brain Injury Medicine" it covers everything. Second, find your toll free BIAA (Brian Injury Assoc of America) chapter for your state. They will have resources for you.

I didn't know there was meds for Brain injuries. Thank you so much, I'm going to look into it. Please take care of yourself

Wow I'm going to tell him all this. Thank you so much

I am a motorcycle passenger survivor- we were hit by a car. 21 yrs post you could pass me on the street and never know but come spend the day with me and it will be apparent. CHI/TBI was my diagnosis also with brain surgery. Anyone who has a tbi has permenant damage. What state are you in? First you need to contact the Brain Injury Assoc. For your state. Also, buy "Brain Injury Medicine" it will be a constant resource for you as well as knowing me.

most definitely =) currenly i major in Psychology. Helps ease the burden of depresssion knowing Not ONE is prefect despite appearance or outlook in life. Lotsa C-R-A-Z-I-E-S out there haha. "Patch Adams" was the movie I came to terms with most. that recently i foundout 1 of my Psych profs is a TBI survivor too, so in no way should he feel smaller than the rest of the world. He survived an injury others may not =( he should pride himself & enjoy life best way he can nvr lose hope. TY Fringe111

Now there's some self help that sounds terrific. He does that and it does help him. Does it help you? I wish you all the best.

In many respects i understand how he feels. like others I myself am a TBI survivor been 2yrs & like him I also did not have insurance & had to manage most of my therapy on my own. I was told by doctors, counselors, therapists that i could better (improve) my brain just by Reading. Read as much as possible, so i enrolled into college. When I watch tv I set the Captions On. at times I make it a pt. to watch inspirational movies. Anything as simple as Rocky, Forrest Gump, Remember the Titans.

I hear that. There are no support groups down here either and if there were he wouldn't go. We're dealing with a very stubborn man here. I pray you will find the strength to get through this

He is dealing with a death... the death of who he once was. I feel for him....I do not know why there are not support groups out there. There are none where I live. I think it would be easier to deal with losing a leg or a arm than lose some or a lot of who you were. I feel for your son in law. Getting into the correct Docs will help. My depression is better from starting with my team of Docs... you first start with a Physiatrist.